Writing and Research First of all Like a painter, before she begins, she must know what she intends to paint. A sculptor needs to know what his statute looks like before he starts chipping away at the stone. And, a writer, as well, must know what the finished product will consist of to be able…
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Prior to my bout with Shingles, I heard about them on TV in advertisements. The little that did stick made me believe that it was something that affected old people only, so I didn’t pay much attention at all. On the 29th of January, I asked my wife to take me to the ER due…
As a counselor, I am never surprised when a client comes in complaining that their spouse committed adultery. The times which there comes some form of surprise is when a pastor’s wife comes complaining of the same. Pastors are for the most part seen as men (and women) who hold themselves accountable to their spouses,…
First of all, healing (emotionally) is the result of when a person changes the way he or she processes the memories that were the result of an emotional trauma so that those memories will no longer interfere with their method of making decisions in the present. So long as the person continues to allow the…
The following is from an email sent to me by a precious person who also was a client of mine a while back. I wanted to share this story with you to give you a glimpse into the struggle that many Mexican immigrants have as they enter and live in the United States. I changed…
As a counselor of 30 years, I have had the opportunity to speak at many marriage seminars, retreats, and other similar gatherings. On top of that, I have counseled with hundreds of persons, as well as many couples, regarding their marriages. I have come to the conclusion that those of us who do choose to…
These were the words of a young wife who came to see me for counseling. Her husband of a few years had left her for someone else, and she was angry and mortified at the prospects of divorce. “Can’t God just make him get right?” she cried. She grew up in church where she heard…
Section One – Adult Children Helping is doing something for someone that he is not capable of doing himself. Enabling is doing for someone things that he could and should be doing himself. Being the Bank of Mom and Dad, or the Bank of Grandma and Grandpa. Loaning money that is never repaid, buying things…
A while back, I had the opportunity to discuss the topic of “positive affirmation” with a fellow believer. Her argument was that she was not receiving an adequate amount of positive affirmation from people in her life. She stated that her “love language” was “Words of Affirmation.” There are “officially” 5 ways to express or…
A while back, I had the opportunity to discuss the topic of “positive affirmation” with a fellow believer. Her argument was that she was not receiving an adequate amount of positive affirmation from people in her life. She stated that her “love language” was “Words of Affirmation.” There are “officially” 5 ways to express or…
The Elusive Dream For Many As a counselor of 30 years, I have had the opportunity to speak at many marriage seminars, retreats, and other similar gatherings. On top of that, I have counseled with hundreds of persons, as well as many couples, regarding their marriages. I have come to the conclusion that those of…