By Linda Martinez Women with no self-respect and no self-love, see themselves as unworthy of anything good in their lives. They accept mistreatment, abuse, and rejection as a normality. They are accustomed to being treated as worthless, therefore many believe they don’t deserve more. They become lazy and don’t strive for greater things. Their relationships…
Here is a guaranteed formula on how to become a consistently angry person. Be picky and finicky. Take pride in being a perfectionist. Some of the angriest people in the world are perfectionists. After all, what thing is there that is perfect? Certainly nothing human is perfect. Therefore, people who expect perfection from others or…
The Classic Problem: Julie and Tony have been having many arguments concerning the children. Julie insists that Tony must spend more time with the children. Tony argues that he spends as much time with them as he is able, seeing as how he works all day and comes home tired. He argues that he makes…
Conflict is best resolved when two persons are able to communicate their separate concerns and together are able to reach compromises which work in the favor of the relationship. The question is, “Do I want to win, or do I want us to win?” The difference is demonstrated by the approach that a person takes,…
What are the Different Types of Financial Problems? The inability (normally due to a lack of knowledge) to manage one’s finances in a manner adequately enough to sustain a moderate lifestyle for the people involved. The compulsion to misuse one’s finances to meet emotional deficiencies (binge spending, misuse of credit and borrowing, purchases of unneeded…
What are the Different Types of Sex Issues? The inability to perform, and/or discomfort. Emotional trauma resulting from sexual activity. The unwillingness to participate. The use of sex as a weapon. When is it okay to not have sex? Is it a right or a privilege? Sex “toys,” okay or not? What are the Correct…
What is Forgiveness? Type A – This is where you decide in your mind that you have forgiven someone else for what they have done to you. This is only a mental assertion, and not an action. There is no reaction expected, per se, but it can lead to further forgiveness. Type B – This is where…
What is Depression? Physiological Depression – Said to be caused without any external trigger whatsoever. Every facet of our behavior is controlled by the balance of chemicals and hormones present in our body. Any deviations in the normal levels of these chemicals could lead to a physiological change in us which, in theory, may lead…
What are the Different Types of Communication Issues? Unclear expectations. Unfair expectations. Immaturity on either or both parts. Issues of trust, security, and/or dependability. What are the Correct Responses? For numbers 1 and 2 – the clients should be taken through the process of creating and establishing marital and home agreements, using the Rev. Juan…
What’s the Difference? Infidelity is breaking a promise to remain faithful to a sexual partner. That promise can take many forms, from marriage vows sanctified by the state to privately uttered verbal agreements between lovers. Adultery is voluntary sexual relations between an individual who is married and someone who is not the individual’s spouse. An…
What is Abuse? Physical Abuse – The use of violence in the interaction between people. Physical Abuse includes, but is not limited to, rape, assaults, pushing, shoving, hitting, slapping, pinching, and so on, with the intention of causing bodily harm to another. Additionally, the withholding of necessary sustenance, resources, and/or substances, such as food, medicine,…
Christian counselors should be people who live what they preach. The one trait that gets people to trust their counselor is that they believe the counselor counsels in the way the counselor lives. This means that if you want people to trust what you are going to tell them they should do about their problem,…