As a counselor, I have worked with many couples in my 28 years in this ministry. One thing I have learned that is the source of many conflicts between them is the mistaken idea of what they believe love means. When someone uses the word “love,” they are actually saying many other things. Let’s look…
Counseling is about hearing the words of a person, and deciphering what they mean, so that the counselor may then use his or her own words to give instruction to that person on how to resolve their concerns. Words are “key” to effective counseling, and “key words” are important to counseling effectively. In this article,…
Conflict is best resolved when two persons are able to communicate their separate concerns and together are able to reach compromises which work in the favor of the relationship. The question is, “Do I want to win, or do I want us to win?” The difference is demonstrated by the approach that a person takes,…
What are the Different Types of Financial Problems? The inability (normally due to a lack of knowledge) to manage one’s finances in a manner adequately enough to sustain a moderate lifestyle for the people involved. The compulsion to misuse one’s finances to meet emotional deficiencies (binge spending, misuse of credit and borrowing, purchases of unneeded…
What are the Different Types of Sex Issues? The inability to perform, and/or discomfort. Emotional trauma resulting from sexual activity. The unwillingness to participate. The use of sex as a weapon. When is it okay to not have sex? Is it a right or a privilege? Sex “toys,” okay or not? What are the Correct…
What is Forgiveness? Type A – This is where you decide in your mind that you have forgiven someone else for what they have done to you. This is only a mental assertion, and not an action. There is no reaction expected, per se, but it can lead to further forgiveness. Type B – This is where…
What is Depression? Physiological Depression – Said to be caused without any external trigger whatsoever. Every facet of our behavior is controlled by the balance of chemicals and hormones present in our body. Any deviations in the normal levels of these chemicals could lead to a physiological change in us which, in theory, may lead…
What are the Different Types of Communication Issues? Unclear expectations. Unfair expectations. Immaturity on either or both parts. Issues of trust, security, and/or dependability. What are the Correct Responses? For numbers 1 and 2 – the clients should be taken through the process of creating and establishing marital and home agreements, using the Rev. Juan…
What’s the Difference? Infidelity is breaking a promise to remain faithful to a sexual partner. That promise can take many forms, from marriage vows sanctified by the state to privately uttered verbal agreements between lovers. Adultery is voluntary sexual relations between an individual who is married and someone who is not the individual’s spouse. An…
What is Abuse? Physical Abuse – The use of violence in the interaction between people. Physical Abuse includes, but is not limited to, rape, assaults, pushing, shoving, hitting, slapping, pinching, and so on, with the intention of causing bodily harm to another. Additionally, the withholding of necessary sustenance, resources, and/or substances, such as food, medicine,…
Four types of logic: Informal logic (logical reasoning) is the study of natural language arguments. Formal logic is the study of inference with purely formal content. Symbolic logic is the study of symbolic abstractions that capture the formal features of logical inference Mathematical logic is an extension of symbolic logic into other areas, in particular…
IT’S NOT WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE WHEN YOU’RE DOING WHAT YOU’RE DOING, IT’S WHAT YOU’RE DOING WHEN YOU’RE DOING WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE YOU’RE DOING. The “truth” is often clouded by the perception of the person. A client will always tell you one, or more, of three things when presenting their concerns to you. What…