What’s the Difference? Infidelity is breaking a promise to remain faithful to a sexual partner. That promise can take many forms, from marriage vows sanctified by the state to privately uttered verbal agreements between lovers. Adultery is voluntary sexual relations between an individual who is married and someone who is not the individual’s spouse. An…
What is Abuse? Physical Abuse – The use of violence in the interaction between people. Physical Abuse includes, but is not limited to, rape, assaults, pushing, shoving, hitting, slapping, pinching, and so on, with the intention of causing bodily harm to another. Additionally, the withholding of necessary sustenance, resources, and/or substances, such as food, medicine,…
Christian counselors should be people who live what they preach. The one trait that gets people to trust their counselor is that they believe the counselor counsels in the way the counselor lives. This means that if you want people to trust what you are going to tell them they should do about their problem,…
Four types of logic: Informal logic (logical reasoning) is the study of natural language arguments. Formal logic is the study of inference with purely formal content. Symbolic logic is the study of symbolic abstractions that capture the formal features of logical inference Mathematical logic is an extension of symbolic logic into other areas, in particular…
IT’S NOT WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE WHEN YOU’RE DOING WHAT YOU’RE DOING, IT’S WHAT YOU’RE DOING WHEN YOU’RE DOING WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE YOU’RE DOING. The “truth” is often clouded by the perception of the person. A client will always tell you one, or more, of three things when presenting their concerns to you. What…
HAVE A REASON AND/OR PURPOSE FOR READING 1. Read with a purpose; have an objective in mind. Decide why you are reading the Word that day or time period. The Bible says that people “perish” for a lack of vision. When you choose a topic, issue, concern, or question to consider as you read and…
Self-Discipline TRAIN UP To “train” someone: “to give the discipline and instruction, drill, practice, etc., designed to impart proficiency or efficiency.1” Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.” The word, “child” obviously means a child, that is a boy…
In one of my training classes, a man asked me what he would have to do to become a successful counselor. I started to answer in one way, but after thinking for a moment, I changed my intended response. Success in counseling will depend on the counselor’s point of view. On the one hand, for…
“Warfare” in Counseling? Spiritual “Warfare,” as such, and Christian counseling are mostly synonymous. Spiritual warfare has at its core the intent to conquer the works of the enemy, and Christian counseling does very much the same by helping the client learn effective and practical Biblical ways to conquer the works of the enemy in their…
Biblical Principles Christian counseling is about applying the principles in God’s Word to the circumstances and situations presented by the clients. There are certain things which are known about most Christians who come to counseling. Of those things, it is their lack of knowledge concerning the Scriptures which stands out the most. The Christian who…
Romans 12:2 (NASB) “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:2 (NLT) “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform…
As A Christian Therapeutic Treatment Modality Dr. Paul Carlin, who was a Scripturologist not a psychologist, introduced Belief Therapy to the public in November 1997. The modality was developed during his 20 years of restorative justice ministries in the Texas Prison System. He used the prisons as his laboratory and prisoners as his subjects. Carlin…