Handling the Session with Good Interviewing Skills
It is important that the counselor always listen, not just to what the client is saying, but how they say what they are saying. Careful listening skills can lead the Continue Reading →
Category Archives: Counseling
The New Life Christian Counseling Map (A Format to Follow)
While there will probably never be a single “format” to follow with every client in exactly the same manner, haphazard counseling can prove ineffective for the counselor and disastrous for Continue Reading →
Using the Principles wisely in Counseling
Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out. Proverbs 20:5 (KJV) Scripture is full of practical and useful counsel Continue Reading →
Counseling and Your Personal Life
The tendency on your part will be to give more and more to your counseling. I will agree that you have to be ready to make a real sacrifice, and Continue Reading →
What is a Christian?
Depending on whom you ask you will also get varying definitions. I will attempt to give a generally good description of who we are, as compared to what others say Continue Reading →
Cognitive Distortions
Understanding the problem to understand the solution. People do the things they do, because they BELIEVE the things they believe. This is the key principle for the counselor to use Continue Reading →
Stop Playing “The Game”
One of my brothers called me one day. I could tell from his voice that he seemed stressed a bit. “You doing anything?” he asked. “Nope,” I answered, “just watching Continue Reading →
“My Story”
The following is from an email sent to me by a precious person who also was a client of mine a while back. I wanted to share this story with Continue Reading →
What Does Love Feel Like?
While sitting through the movie, “The Shack,” along with my wife, I was struck with an odd idea. Well, to be honest, odd to me. The main character was going Continue Reading →
Counselors like King Solomon
First Kings 3:16-28, tells a story of two women who came before King Solomon. Each was claiming that a certain baby was theirs. What had happened, was that one of Continue Reading →
A Happy Marriage – The Elusive Dream For Many
As a counselor of 30 years, I have had the opportunity to speak at many marriage seminars, retreats, and other similar gatherings. On top of that, I have counseled with Continue Reading →
“I’m Not Sure I Believe Anymore!”
These were the words of a young wife who came to see me for counseling. Her husband of a few years had left her for someone else, and she was Continue Reading →
Did Jesus Make Mistakes?
The answer to this question is not a simple “yes,” or “no.” A religiously motivated person will have no problem instantly shouting “No!” to the question, at the top of Continue Reading →
Adult and Minor Children – How to handle problems
Section One – Adult Children Helping is doing something for someone that he is not capable of doing himself. Enabling is doing for someone things that he could and should Continue Reading →
WHY DO I HAVE TROUBLE OBEYING GOD?
Why do some people struggle so much living the Christian life as they understand the Lord wants from them. They tell themselves that they want to do what is “right,” Continue Reading →
Put to the Test
Do You, As A Counselor, Pass The Test? In chapter 2 of the book of Revelation, in the first seven verses, Jesus sends a message to the church at Ephesus. Continue Reading →
Words of “Affirmation?”
A while back, I had the opportunity to discuss the topic of “positive affirmation” with a fellow believer. Her argument was that she was not receiving an adequate amount of Continue Reading →
Words of “Affirmation?”
A while back, I had the opportunity to discuss the topic of “positive affirmation” with a fellow believer. Her argument was that she was not receiving an adequate amount of Continue Reading →
Your House Is On Fire!
Ten Lessons We Learned From a House Fire On 12 April 2013, I was driving to a restaurant with my brother and his wife for breakfast. As we drove, I Continue Reading →
COUNSELORS LIKE KING SOLOMON
First Kings 3:16-28, tells a story of two women who came before King Solomon. Each was claiming that a certain baby was theirs. What had happened, was that one of Continue Reading →